7. He’ll Want All of Your Love, Not Just a Piece
The title is self-explanatory. Not just a piece, the whole puzzle.
“A whole man wants a whole woman.”
Be mindful of the energy you put in. Just because he may be the one God has for you, doesn’t mean he is going to get through your walls of issues and problems, he can’t heal you.
“If the two of you meet when each of you is broken, it will escalate.”
Self-care. Self-love. Self-heal. BEFORE you are seeking a committed relationship.
This is what happened in my last relationship. He and I were coming from a broken place. We didn’t give ourselves time to heal.
I came from a broken relationship/household and so did he. We dove into this new relationship with our foot and the gas peddle on the floor. It was amazing at first, I won’t lie. Honeymoon stage.
We were too blindly in love to see that we were definitely not ready for a relationship we both deserved.
Bad timing.
“If he doesn’t feel secure, loved, and respected, he’ll not only begin to question you, he may respond negatively.”
This isn’t an excuse for his negative behavior – this can prompt him to be overprotective, clingy, screening everything you do, and other ways to gain control.
Insecurity is nothing more than uncertainty and a lack of control.
Personally, I’ve never dealt with this kind of relationship. However, I have seen this kind of action through some of my friends’ relationships.
Unfortunately, I had a friend with this type of boyfriend. Her boyfriend has major insecurity issues. He manipulates and controls her in ways that she’s too blind to see.
It’s something that I have pointed out to my friend but they are too “in love” with their significant other to notice these red flags.
He keeps a tab on her and doesn’t “allow” her to hang out with certain people, calls constantly, asks ridiculous questions, etc…
If you feel like this is your relationship, tell that man, boy bye!
I had an ex that would question me hanging out with my friends and accuse me of having a thing with any of my guy friends. I found out that it was because he was fooling around with his friend behind my back.
Be aware. Sometimes, men are like this because they don’t want what they are doing to you, happen to them.
“He may have his own fears and even if he’s work passed some things, he may not want to deal with the resistance. Be honest about whether or not you’re being open, inviting and receptive to his efforts.”
In other words; don’t be the cause of an amazing relationship with the man God handed you because you’re “guarding your heart.”
Are you really listening to God?
When you attempt to move forward, while holding back in fear, you miss the opportunity to see the full potential of the relationship.
Agreed. I was this way.
After getting my issues sorted out and problems solved, I opened myself up to an amazing man that I now get to call mine.
If God has answered your prayer then move forward – you have to be open-minded and move with full force.
“A misinterpreted saying: a woman should be with a man who loves her more than she loves him.”
No!
Love shouldn’t be compared – you’re into each other, period. The connection is too strong for determining whose love is greater and honestly, it’s just silly.
Love should be reciprocated.
You can’t enter a relationship waiting to see what they’re going to do, or if they’ll put forth all the effort.
“A whole man will want a whole women.”
You have to work on being whole. It’s not about finding a man who completes you, it’s about completing yourself and receiving the man who complements you, as you compliment him in return.
YASSS! I say this all the time to my friends, co-workers, strangers – honestly anyone that talks to me. I was blessed to have the time I needed to heal and become whole. I can go into a relationship now with full force. I was able to date myself and allow myself to get to know myself – my needs, my wants, what works for me, my purpose, and most importantly grow my self-love & respect.
I urge everyone to do this!
Conclusion
Becoming your best self is important.
It all comes together when you get yourself right and find your purpose. When you love yourself, heal, get rid of past hurts, disappointments, and flush that negative energy out of your system; you become the woman you were always created to be and that’s a beautiful thing.
Right guy, wrong time
Many people cross paths with each other at a time when they’re not ready, or it’s not time for them to get together romantically.
You meeting him is so that you can see what’s coming so that you can see the blessing is there.
Never think so highly of yourself that you believe there’s no room for improvement.
Humble yourself.
Open yourself up to whatever growth and lessons God wants you to learn.
Reminder to always be willing to pray and ask God.
Don’t allow your emotions to get in the way.
Don’t allow your fear to stop you.
Understand that just because it wasn’t the time then, doesn’t mean it’s not time now.
as always,
with much love,
E.Barona
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