6. He Will Love God
His love of God is what needs to be in place for you to be able to accept him into your life.
Without that foundation, there will be mistakes and that man will not be aligned with you.
“A man who loves God and struggles with his flesh VS. a man who loves his flesh and struggles with embracing God.”
A man who loves God & struggles with his flesh is no different than you.
He gives credit to God, he knows that he can’t accomplish anything without the power that God gave him, the love that God showed him, or the guidance that God provided.
I had a beautiful boyfriend that always put his struggles in the hands of God. He would get down on his knees to pray. He would be thankful for everything he had accomplished.
We would go to church up to twice a week. We would attend my SDA church on Saturdays then on Sunday mornings, we would attend a church we found near our houses. We even joined a small group. We were so indulged in God’s presence and we were at peace within ourselves.
Or so we thought.
We were both broken. We were coming from a place of heartbreak and empty promises. We both came into the relationship with baggage. We helped one another in many ways to get over the obstacles we faced. We complemented each other, we benefited from one another, and we truly were, at least in my eyes, in love.
You can say, it was the right person but the wrong time.
“However, he’s human, just as you.”
When he can acknowledge his errors, understand the need to find ways to improve, and not reject facing God on the issue, then you know he is trying to walk the right path.
This doesn’t necessarily mean he attends church regularly or even worships the way you do. Everyone has their own ways of showing their worship as well as have their own relationship with God. You may not necessarily know about it.
“A man who is in love with his flesh but struggles to embrace God is a man who doesn’t respect your walk.”
This means that they can go to church, just like you, recite quotes from scripture but…. Their behaviors are consistently distant from a man of God’s path, and they aren’t willing to address their issues.
Men like this make sure their image is perceived as perfect when in reality they show signs of their unwillingness to be consistent.
Unfortunately, I was with a guy that didn’t accept God in his presence and he wasn’t too into the church. He didn’t even pretend he was interested, which is fine, he shouldn’t have to.
But for me, a woman of God, I needed a partner that had the same beliefs as me or that helped me stay in the path God intended for me.
That wasn’t the case in this relationship and I ended up drifting away from my church. I even stopped going altogether for about a year. Once the chapter of our relationship ended, I began to go to church again and I felt this huge weight off my shoulders. I felt as though I was finally home, safe and sound.
“How intense you two clash will depend on how strong your walk is with God compared to how off it is with theirs.”
On page 137 of Labossiere’s The Man God has for You gave a perfect example of how bad I clashed with my past significant other that everything began to spiral from there.
My boyfriend at the time believes in God but doesn’t care for church – a passive believer to say. On the other hand, I am someone that takes church and my faith, seriously.
When in a disagreement or facing an issue in our relationship, I would want to overcome the issue together. I suggested we pray, seek help, and communicate to help us grow. His response was, “for what?”
This relationship failed.
“This is where we clashed and this lead to a lack of trust, feeling like my beliefs were devalued, and a host of other issues.”
Equally yoked – you and your man have to be in agreement with how to handle life situations, your values, the goals you pursue together, and how you view relationships. This is applied even in a non-religious context.
Unequally yoked – no togetherness, working apart, clash, and conflict with how to handle life.
Reminder: No Man is perfect. He will love God but he won’t be perfect.
Labossiere shares a short conversation with a woman on page 139.
Moral of the story: just because you have evolved to a certain level, doesn’t mean the man that doesn’t match it should be automatically dismissed.
If a man needs some time, there are some things you need to work on as well, and then you two will come back together.
Now, sometimes this time apart from one another doesn’t necessarily mean you two will get back together. Maybe the time apart is what takes you to a place where he no longer serves a purpose in your life. That’s because he’s not the man God has for you.
*But be mindful… you are not here to save this man (or a man). You are not here to save him while attempting to enter into a romantic relationship.*
You become so caught up in saving this man, you don’t recognize it’s pulling you further away from God, and damaging you in the process.
This happened to me. I was so invested in my partner that I lost sight of who I was and my purpose. I started to pull away from God and my faith. When it wasn’t my job, to begin with, to save him.
Labossiere ends this trait with:
“The man who loves God will not pull you from that path. He will encourage you to remain on it, grow stronger in it, and for you two to grow together in becoming and being in the position that God wants for you both in life.”
as always,
with much love,
E.Barona
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