You Will Not Have to Make Him Into a Man

3. You Will Not Have To Make Him Into A Man.

I don’t know how else to reword this other than remind you, it is NOT your responsibility.

“He may never reach his potential with you. Dating his potential is risky.”

After reading this, I realized so many ladies, including myself, have dated potential. Wasted potential! In my experience.

While dating his potential, I was the best damn girlfriend. I was patient, I was supportive, and helped him grow.

Unfortunately, that didn’t mean he wanted to grow with me. I wasn’t even in his plans for his future. I was not his end result.

You can tell if it’s potential or his character. There’s a big difference.

Potential – a reflection of his capabilities, what you desire out of a man.
Character – where he shows you his vision, shows you effort and puts in work – a man of value, someone you can respect and trust, as well as believe they’ll get to a better destination.

Let him show you who he is.

Don’t ask him. Don’t tell him. Don’t bring to light what a man looks like for you. Allow him to show you.

“Supporting a man vs. sponsoring a man.”

Be mindful of where you place your investment. This is a hard one because sometimes you know it’s a bad investment and it’s hard for you to let go.

Trust me, it’s hard! It’s difficult leaving a long-term relationship especially when you’ve spent so much time, effort, and love on someone that took it for granted. On top of all that, he doesn’t grow with you instead, he grows apart from you.

If you see it’s not working, you have to be able to walk away and accept that maybe you purchased bad stock.

Building with someone means you and that person equally bring something to the table. Someone to match your effort. It’s, not a one-way street.

“Don’t Neglect Yourself.”

This is so important. Many people, including myself, tend to lose themselves in the wrong relationship. 

Unfortunately, this happened to me. I was so invested in him, that I lost track of who I was, what path to take, and my purpose.

I lost sight of myself. Which is not okay. It’s not fair to you.

To get past this mentality, to be in a better mindset, and to stay true to ourselves – we have to put ourselves first. Our needs, our wants, our desires, our goals, and overall, our love. There is no reason to be in a relationship if we neglect who we are.

There’s room for a man to change (where it’s not just temporarily)

If he’s serious, if he really wants it, watch how quickly he tightens up – where he’s serious about being with you, he’ll clean up his act.

Don’t Enable His Laziness. 

Point blank.

Don’t allow his unwillingness to do more in life and provide more for you just because you accept his lack of ambition and enable his procrastination.

Stop that! I dealt with this for the most part. I invested my time, energy, and even at times, my money to a boy that couldn’t handle a strong independent woman. He felt less of a man just because he wasn’t at my level, yet. I guided him and in return, he pushed me away and took my dedication for granted. 

as Halsey sings in Without Me,

I’d catch you if you fall, and if they laugh, fuck ’em all, and then I got you off your knees, put you right back on your feet, just so you could take advantage of me. 

as always,

with much love,

E.Barona

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