DON’T SETTLE!

I cannot preach this enough, I still preach it and even to myself at times. I know a lot of ladies that are settling. It could be because they want to start a family, rush into a marriage title, and for many other reasons.

“You start to feel like your clock is ticking.”

We feel that time is almost up or we’re the only ones not getting married. which leads us to play catch up with our friends. Seeing all types of posts on social media about happy couples, engagements, weddings, baby showers, etc.. makes us doublethink that maybe we’re the ones falling behind on the timeline. When in reality, everyone’s timeline is different.

“You start to believe there’s nothing better.”

This is the sad truth for some ladies. It’s not fair to think this way because I know some guys will take advantage of the forgiving souls that we home.

In my experience, my willingness to forgive and move forward was always taken advantage of. I would forgive… and forgive… and forgive once more. However, doing this didn’t stop the guy I was with from being the same asshole he was.

Insert Olivia Rodrigo’s Favorite Crime lyrics,

All the things I did just to call you mine

It’s truly so sad to think that as women we feel the need to protect the image of a man that’s doing us harm behind closed doors.

“You start to get tired of the dating process but this is where you should stop yourself.”

Take time to date yourself.

Once you’ve taken care of your own needs,

Once you’ve learned to love yourself,

Once you fill the void of your heartaches, and

Once you finally know what you’re looking for in a partner.

Then, you’re ready to date again. Not all guys are the same. Some are nice and some are simply not as nice. Be aware, be selective, and look out for those red flags.

“You get all this outside pressure.”

Personally, my outside pressure comes from my family. They’re always in my business of who I’m dating. They always ask me when I’m getting married, when I plan to have kids, and what’s his name. They even continue to ask the same three questions but in Spanish, as if that’s going to change my answers. Their favorite thing to do is compare me with my two nieces (who both share the same age as me), which are both married with kids. – this is another topic for another time. 

I don’t think the outside pressure understands the weight they put on us by doing so.

“Settling only leads you back to square one with a temporary fix that makes you feel as if you’ll never find real love, leaving you with a void..”

Just breathe. Dating is a process. A process that tailors to your needs. A process that does not have a specific timeline. The only timeline that matters is your own, at your own pace.

as always,

with much love,

E.Barona

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