2. His Love Will Uplift You, Not Break You.
You have to be aware that any man who continues to disrespect or mistreat you is not a man sent from God.
AMEN! Listen, I was not the smartest but I thought what I had was love. Boy was I wrong. I always made excuses for his actions and I was left in a relationship that was toxic and honestly, alone. It’s not fun feeling alone with the supposed love of your life.
Mistake– happens once, with the issue being acknowledged. Meaning, he acknowledged the mistake, worked on it and you saw the progress. Now, if they don’t deal with the mistake, acknowledge it, or they don’t take full ownership, then you’re dealing with a real issue.
Real Issue – nothing can be fixed if that person sees no wrong in what they did and tries to defend, validate or excuse it. And that mistake will inevitably happen again because they don’t see the problem.
Somehow everything that went south was my fault. All the bad memories are flooding in. The thing is, I justified his actions by understanding his past. I allowed his actions to grow angrier and stronger because of his upbringing. I let things slide when I should have never allowed them to consume me.
And that’s not okay. There comes a time and place where you no longer can excuse your bad intentions on your past traumas.
He never took the time to work on moving forward from his struggles.
Now some guys will change temporarily.
This is how we get caught in a toxic cycle. This is how men manipulate women into staying with them. That was my case.
He didn’t give a damn about my feelings and where I was coming from.
He didn’t understand or even cared about MY upbringing or my past. It’s selfish.
He only wanted to stop me from feeling a certain type of way or stop me from crying. Just because he couldn’t handle or even care about my emotions or my perspective.
This is something I came to learn, people (in my case, my ex) change temporarily. Then in a blink of an eye, they’re back to their toxic self.
This is hard to notice with those blinders on, but hopefully one day you are able to take a breather to realize that the cycle has to come to an end.
You want someone to make you feel lighter as if walking on air.
We don’t need someone to hold you down and stop you from growing as an individual.
It’s draining being in a toxic cycle. Your energy gets consumed by negativity and your light starts to dim.
Remove it and move on because there’s something greater waiting around the corner.
Be the bigger person like Billie Eilish and move on swiftly. insert Happier than Ever lyrics.
and I don’t talk shit about you on the internet,never told anyone anything bad.
No need to continue to talk about someone that already took up so much of your time, energy, and love. Move on quickly and quietly, but effortlessly.
as always,
with much love,
E.Barona
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