It is easier for an ex to say, “fuck you, next”
It’s because we hurt.
It’s because the one person you thought was the one, got away.
Once you have a special connection with someone, you can’t fathom the thought of them with someone else.
But like Ari says, “thank you, next”
I really am thankful for my exs. They helped shape who I am today. For many reasons, I’m thankful for the time we shared and for what they taught me.
One taught me self-love and I’m forever thankful for that.
One taught me self-respect.
The one who got away taught me what there is to know about love. The do’s and don’ts of a relationship, the highs and lows, the compromises, sacrifices, he even taught me about myself.
And I hope he can do the same for you.
This letter is for my ex’s next girlfriend.
Now I don’t want to delve into him entirely but the tip of the ice burg will suffice. You’ll find out for yourself sooner than later, trust me. Because when he falls, he falls head over heels for only you, he loves just you, has eyes just for you, makes sure you feel desired, and assures that each and every day you feel beautiful.
I know when he gets upset, he will hold back and be the stronger one, but it’s obvious he restraints himself
I know how he gets when he loses at his video games, it’s entertaining to watch.
I know his favorite band.
I know what triggers him.
I know what makes him happy.
I know what annoys him.
I know all his tickle spots.
I know his favorite pair of briefs.
I know his favorite number because of a childhood memory.
I know his mom’s favorite song, favorite restaurant, and favorite mixed drink.
And I hope that one day he tells you all about her. When he does, know that you are important to him and he confides in you. You need to be able to hold his hand and keep her memory alive whenever possible. Know when he jokes about her, its okay to joke back when you’re comfortable enough to.
And soon you will conform to this. Even the things I never got to learn about him. You’ll know more.
At the beginning, just like every relationship, we were the best of friends. We would be inseparable. We would go everywhere and anywhere together, but that’s another topic for another letter.
We were once in love but had our whole future ahead of us. I fell in love with all the little things about him. The way he would look at me and smiled just because, my perception of time slowed while I was with him. The way his nose would crinkle when he would make a funny face and when he shared cheerful moments with my little niece. His eyes peered at mine and gave me assurance that I shouldn’t worry.
But, just like every relationship, you truly never know what happens behind closed doors. What you see on social media is just a picture of moments that you portray to the world. A moment to show the world your affection for one another.
Just like many, his good qualities were contradicted by the vices he indulged in. It’s just a matter of how you react to their flaws and take them into consideration. I won’t get into this because it hurts to even think about the bad in our relationship and it’s his flaws to show you, to see if you can handle it and understand it and love him for him and all his flaws.
Unfortunately…
Time has an effect on people
People change as time goes by.
We both changed, and drifted
We grew apart
But now he can grow with you.
I hope he treats you with the respect you deserve.
I hope he brings you flowers just because.
I hope he holds your hand and show you off because he’s proud to be yours.
I hope he catches you when you fall.
I hope he puts a smile on your face when he sees that you’re unhappy.
I hope that he takes you on adventures.
I hope he puts his differences aside, swallows his pride and takes you to that chick flick movie, that art class where you can wine and paint, that fashion store you love so much, that museum you’ve been dying to go to. I hope he stops and takes pictures of you and most importantly, I hope that he never stops trying to win you over. I hope he doesn’t take your love for granted. I hope he can look pass your flaws and accept you for who you are. I hope you two learn from your past.
I hope he treats you like the princess you are.
with much love,
Estephania Barona
As Adele would say..
Send my love to your new lover
Treat her better
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